this morning
while applying olive oil to tok we's dry n seasoned skin..

"Ida akhir tahun ni doh.. Aman pun nok nikoh do'oh doh.." Tok We said in her forever-cool tone

Translation
Ida will be getting married end of this year. Aman will follow soon

Meaning
My cousin, Ida, 25 is getting married. Aman, her bro, 23, is just waiting for the mom's green light.

What it really means
When is my turn??

True enough, Tok We did ask about me.. wat about me, next year she asked.. well i said insyaAllah, if i can find the groom this year..
She was not expecting i'd say that, since, like everyone else in my extended family, she assumed that i always have a boyfren.
I think they're still stucked in that 'if-she-always-go-out-she-must-have-someone' age. I dont blame them anyway. I tend to have more guy frens and hence i always go out with guys.

My extended family is a very typical Kelantanese family with exception of Tok We (if she SUGGESTED i marry a mat salleh, i dont think she could even be a typical malay granma, can she?). We all tend to marry each other (dont say it's disgusting, some of the products are of good quality, but then again, SOME). We marry early (or else why would i even bother with this topic at 23). Most of us can cook, very well, and cooking is a vital skill among our women. We stay n move in herds during hari raya. Most of us are either business partners, or involved in some kind of own business.
The one that bothers me is - we marry early. I wish i could conform to this tradition but at the rate things are going now..hmm.. i guess i shouldnt put too much hope. My parents are married at the age of 24, and they became parents at 25. All of my cousins which are older than me, are married. In terms of seniority, i'm next in line, on both my parent's side (If the younger ones starts tying the knots jugak, i'd simply die..they're still infants to get married, pls dont do it to me)..And now people are asking..
Usually if u're still studying u'll always have that excuse. I guess i dont have that luxury anymore.

But i guess what really puts me under pressure is realising that i am ready to settle down (wooohooooo!!!!) yet not having someone to settle down with.
i suppose i am already shoo-ing off all my male readers (if i have any)
and if i continue i would put myself down as the most pathetic girl in 2003- and it's only january

oklah..
need to pick up tok we and mama from the clinic..
we'll see wat she have to say next time..
that old lady rocks!!

ta!